September 12, 2016

Extending the Vision from Local to Universal

Many churches hold national annual meetings in the late spring or early summer to conduct the business of the denomination. I think that a pastor's wife can benefit from occasional attendance at such gatherings, especially if her local church is in an area that doesn't offer much support for ministry.

I go to our General Assembly (GA) from time-to-time, and it protects me from insular thinking. This year in Mobile, Alabama, I was able to sing with Keith and Kristyn Getty, hear Timothy Keller preach and enjoy Christian fellowship with like-minded people from around the world. This meeting of a small American denomination reminded me that God is at work in a big way in the church universal.

Other pluses of being there:
Meeting up with old friends and making new friends
Praying for our denomination with members of our denomination
Choosing from a wide variety of relevant seminars 
Touring area attractions and learning the history of the place
Hearing about new missions and ministry projects
Realizing the seriousness of the issues before the assembly
Spending time, before or after GA, exploring a new area of the country with my husband

In addition, a highlight for the solo pastors in the group may be the daily worship service. These men are freed from their normal responsibilities of leading in worship and are able to sit under the preaching of some of the finest ministers.

One of the sermons we heard this year was given by Timothy Keller on boasting in the Lord. Keller said that everyone boasts in something in order to face his enemies. When the object of boasting is not ourselves, but the Lord, we see more unity in the Church and more effectiveness in our witness. To see Keller's sermon, select "PCA 2016 Wednesday Worship" from this website and forward to 38:47 minutes. The Gettys sing before that point in the video.

August 29, 2016

Why Can't the Church Just Get Along? A Review of Redeeming Church Conflicts

Perhaps nothing is more stressful to a pastor's wife than a conflict within the church. Not only does she have the heart-wrenching experience of seeing her Christian sisters, spiritual mothers, and precious daughters-in-the-faith quarrel and fight with one another; not only does she hear murmurings (or, worse, sudden silences) as she walks down the hall on Sunday mornings; not only does she have to carefully guard her own tongue and actions at every minute to promote peace and avoid escalating the problem; she also helplessly watches conflict's toll on the church's pastor, her beloved husband.

Thankfully, over my years in various churches, the conflicts have been few. But every church faces conflict to some degree, and each of us could use help to navigate those situations.

This is why I was so thankful to receive a copy of Redeeming Church Conflicts: Turning Crisis into Compassion and Care by Tara Klena Barthel and David V. Edling. This recent reprint (it was originally published by Baker in 2012) is a gift to the church for its clarity and biblical wisdom.  

To someone in the middle of a church conflict, the complex knot of spiritual and material issues, contributing factors, and personalities can appear impossible to understand, let alone untangle. As emotions rise and hope sinks, everyone in the church experiences distress, and, amid the confusion and hurt, a positive path forward often seems unclear. In this book, Barthel and Edling (both experienced conciliators/mediators) offer a warm, biblical, and careful roadmap for navigating church crises.

Although we might be tempted to think of church conflict in terms of the immediate crisis (or what Barthel and Edling call "the presenting issues"), the authors encourage us to see conflict through the lens of God's bigger purposes for his church:

"Redeeming church conflict is less about resolving specific problems than it is about seeing conflict as a means by which God is growing his people into true saints, true eternal children who are being continuously conformed to this holy image." 

While not ignoring the specific, material concerns that are the public face of church conflict, the authors very helpfully remind readers that much more is actually at stake. Lest we begin to think the expensive new building project, the Sunday school curriculum, or the feuding individuals are the biggest issue we need to consider--and then "solve"--they constantly point us to the greater importance of God's glory and the good of our neighbor.

Only with this eternal perspective can churches begin to untangle the knot of obvious issues. To do this, each chapter uses the pattern of the church in the book of Acts (especially Acts 15) combined with specific contemporary examples from the authors' mediation cases to define and illuminate a path toward church healing.  Readers of material from Peacemaker Ministries will recognize many of the same helpful principles, applied here to a church setting.

As a pastor's wife, I was particularly challenged by the authors' reminder that no one is "neutral" in a church conflict. As righteous (and safe) as it might sound to say, "I'm just staying out of it," Barthel and Edling admonish their readers: "You are either part of the solution or part of the problem--there can be no fence-sitting. Avoidance may feel better in the short term, but it will never help any of the people involved to grow in grace. . . ."

Perhaps surprisingly for a book about sin and its fruits, these pages are filled with hope. Through the words of Barthel and Edling, church members and leaders will begin to see their conflicts as opportunities for the glory of God. And whether your church is currently in the midst of strife or proactively seeking to avoid it in future, this book is an excellent guide.

Barthel, Tara Klena and David V. Edling. Redeeming Church Conflicts: Turning Crisis into Compassion and Care Reprint: Hendrickson, 2016.

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